Saturday, May 30, 2009
Friday, May 08, 2009
To quote something I read recently that accurately describes what is going to happen over this weekend, after six and a half years of marriage, we're going to have a wedding.
The first thing to establish is that I am feeling no actual nerves about the idea of marriage or the commitment that we will legally be making. It has been a long time coming - I proposed in August 2007 - and we've both been ready for it for a good long while before that. There's a couple of aspects of the day itself which may make me a little nervous, such as not stumbling over my vows and making a speech, but I also realise that these things don't matter hugely, and that if I just relax and let it all happen, it will be fine.
I can't actually use this post to explain why it is I'm so sure that I want to spend the rest of my life with Cath. The first reason for that is that she is currently reading over my shoulder. The second, and most important, reason for that is that I don't want to say anything now that I plan to say tomorrow.
A wedding is a bit unreal, rooted in old traditions, symbols and a sense of show. It doesn't bear much relation to married life, and without the religious motivation, it certainly isn't necessary for modern couples. But I'm glad that we get to do this for one day - people probably don't spend enough time publicly affirming their love for each other, so when there's an opportunity to do so, we should take it. We're fortunate that we've been given lots of help, so we have been able to mark this occasion with a certain degree of ostentatiousness, both for our enjoyment, and hopefully also for our guests - as we're asking them (or you, if you're reading this, and we invited you) to join us for the purpose of celebrating us, we think it's also important to do enough the make the day seem worthwhile.
We're off for two weeks afterwards. Marriage update then.
The first thing to establish is that I am feeling no actual nerves about the idea of marriage or the commitment that we will legally be making. It has been a long time coming - I proposed in August 2007 - and we've both been ready for it for a good long while before that. There's a couple of aspects of the day itself which may make me a little nervous, such as not stumbling over my vows and making a speech, but I also realise that these things don't matter hugely, and that if I just relax and let it all happen, it will be fine.
I can't actually use this post to explain why it is I'm so sure that I want to spend the rest of my life with Cath. The first reason for that is that she is currently reading over my shoulder. The second, and most important, reason for that is that I don't want to say anything now that I plan to say tomorrow.
A wedding is a bit unreal, rooted in old traditions, symbols and a sense of show. It doesn't bear much relation to married life, and without the religious motivation, it certainly isn't necessary for modern couples. But I'm glad that we get to do this for one day - people probably don't spend enough time publicly affirming their love for each other, so when there's an opportunity to do so, we should take it. We're fortunate that we've been given lots of help, so we have been able to mark this occasion with a certain degree of ostentatiousness, both for our enjoyment, and hopefully also for our guests - as we're asking them (or you, if you're reading this, and we invited you) to join us for the purpose of celebrating us, we think it's also important to do enough the make the day seem worthwhile.
We're off for two weeks afterwards. Marriage update then.
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